“If we don’t stare at God, we’ll spend our time staring at lesser things. Namely, ourselves.” —You and Me Forever: Marriage in Light of Eternity
If you haven’t read Francis and Lisa Chan’s new ebook, You and Me Forever, you probably should.
This isn’t your average book on how to have a happy marriage. Co-authors and husband and wife duo Francis and Lisa Chan unpack an external focus for marriage, steering away from advice on how spouses can be happy with one another, and aiming to look at marriage as a mission with God at the center.
We had the chance to ask Francis Chan a few questions about the new ebook:
Tell us about how You and Me Forever developed. What was the inspiration for this book?
I’ve been convicted about this topic for the last five years. Lisa and I don’t fight and we don’t spend a lot of time reading marriage books, yet we still have a great marriage and I’d been thinking —why has it been so easy? We realized it’s because we’ve been focused on the kingdom. We agree on eternity and focusing on that trumps everything else. It seems like a lot of couples are stuck. Maybe it’s that eternal focus that couples are missing—we want them to have that so they can enjoy marriage as God intended.
What’s one of your favorite Scriptures on marriage and why it is important to you?
Ephesians 5:28-30—The thought that Christ would consider me a member of his body is fascinating. He has such an attachment to me. For example, if my finger is broken, of course I’m going to take care of it. And Christ thinks of me in that same way—of course, I’ll take care of Francis if he’s broken. And this is how I should view my wife, Lisa.
For your 20th wedding anniversary, you and Lisa decided to travel to Ethiopia. Tell us more about this trip—did it change your perspective on marriage and life together?
It didn’t really change our perspective on marriage that much. However, it increased our sense of urgency and helped to see our position of privilege, and how we can use that privilege to help others who don’t have it. We don’t want to be casual about it.
Learn more about how the Chans are helping support ministry projects through You and Me Forever.
If you could leave our readers with one piece of advice for their relationships what would it be?
Clear your mind as much as you can of all your preconceived understandings of marriage. Whether it’s from examples, advice, sermons, or personal preferences and desires. Take a fresh look at Scripture again to see what God prioritizes and what he says about the place of marriage in light of eternity. Then pray for the courage to make God-fearing changes even if no one else is doing those things.
Get Francis and Lisa Chan’s new ebook, You and Me Forever: Marriage in Light of Eternity, for just $1.99 through September 19!
Through September 19, get Francis and Lisa Chan’s new ebook, You and Me Forever: Marriage in Light of Eternity, for just $1.99 on Vyrso!
What does it look like to live missionally?
Francis and Lisa Chan look to unpack this question in their new ebook, You and Me Forever, focusing on the bigger picture for marriage as a mission and marriage in light of eternity.
To celebrate their 20th anniversary, Francis and Lisa decided to serve in a village ministry in Africa that one of their friends started. The village ministry was centered around feeding children dying of starvation, liberating women trapped in prostitution, and giving hope and opportunity to a community ravished by poverty.
In an effort to truly live the missional lives they define in You and Me Forever, Francis and Lisa decided to use You and Me Forever as a way to support the work in places like this village in Africa.
The Chans will donate 100% of the net profits they earn from You and Me Forever to fund projects around the world through Crazy Love Ministries.
A few of these ministry projects include providing food, shelter, and rehabilitation for thousands of orphaned children and exploited women.
Take a look into the life of the Chans as they seek to live missionally:
You can contribute to the Chan’s mission—get Francis and Lisa Chan’s new ebook, You and Me Forever: Marriage in Light of Eternity, for just $1.99 on Vyrso through September 19.
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“The way to have a great marriage is by not focusing on marriage.”
You and Me Forever sets aside typical marital topics to take on an outward focus for marriage and capture the bigger picture of marriage as a mission. Francis and Lisa look at married relationships through a different lens and unpack Scripture that helps put marriage in the light of eternity. Whether you’re married, single, or dating, You and Me Forever deepens your understanding of marriage and what it looks like to have a relationship that satisfies even the deepest part of your soul.
Francis and Lisa are self-publishing You and Me Forever, and 100% of the net proceeds they earn will be dedicated to projects around the world through Crazy Love Ministries.
Through September 4, get Francis and Lisa Chan’s new ebook, You and Me Forever: Marriage in Light of Eternity, for free on Vyrso! Not only will you get this brand-new ebook, but the Vyrso edition of You and Me Forever comes with linked Bible references for easy reading alongside Scripture.
Want to learn more about this ebook from Francis and Lisa? Check out the book trailer:
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“Go therefore and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe all that I have commanded you. And behold, I am with you always, to the end of the age.” —Matthew 28:19–20
Jesus’ command often falls on deaf ears. Even in evangelical churches, the command to make disciples can sometimes become second rate to curriculum and ministry programs, which means churches are bringing in new people, but failing to make disciples. This can also negatively affect the congregation, because the congregates lose personal responsibility to spread the gospel, and once personal responsibility is lost, the church can become sick or stagnant. The body of Christ becomes weak and insists that the paid staff (pastors, teachers, preachers, and elders) do the grunt work of making disciples, while the majority of the church sits idling by.
“Jesus gave his followers a command: ‘Follow Me.’ And a promise: ‘I will equip you to find others to follow me.’” —Francis Chan
It’s time to make a change and start living out real discipleship. Here are three ways to be a better disciple of Christ:
1. Stop just believing—begin following
Francis Chan’s book, Multiply, is designed to eliminate a fruitless ministry by replacing it with a ministry focused on true discipleship. But what is a real disciple? The majority of the church believes the word means to follow Christ, as if it’s simply believing he lived, died, and rose from the dead. This is true, but it also excludes the most important concept of being a disciple: disciples are students of God. Chan pushes disciples to imitate Christ, carry on his ministry, and become more like him in the process. The results of becoming a disciple of Christ—in taking on the full meaning of the word—change the way you think, the way you live, and how you love.
2. Build stronger relationships
If being a disciple means we imitate Christ, it means we must be intensely relational—just like Jesus. Building relationships is actually one of the subjects Jesus talked about most often. Specifically, he spoke about two relationships: one is found in the greatest commandment between us and God, and the second is found between us and our neighbors. So instead of skipping your small group or ignoring your daily devotions, you need to build a real relationship with Christ, and grow closer to the friends, family, and strangers around you.
3. Make more disciples
Chan puts it brilliantly, “Making disciples is far more than a program. It is the mission of our lives. It defines us. A disciple is a disciple maker.” This is the most difficult part for me. I can believe in Christ and all that he was, is, and will be. I can study the Bible, love others, and love God, but ask me to lead others to Christ and it’s like pulling teeth. If you’re like me and the majority of Christians, you’ll understand when I say it’s uncomfortable (to say the least). Nevertheless, Jesus commands that we make more disciples and spread the gospel. This is your calling, and this is why you were made—to become a disciple who makes disciples.
Want to learn more about following Jesus’ command in your life? I highly recommend Francis Chan’s Multiply: Disciples Making Disciples. And I’m not the only one—this book was one of Vyrso’s best-selling books of 2013. Download it today!
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Francis Chan, founding pastor of Cornerstone Church in Simi Valley, CA, released Crazy Love: Overwhelmed by a Relentless God in 2008. This powerful book about falling in love with God shot to the top of the New York Times Bestseller list, selling over 175,000 copies in its first year.
Giving all of Crazy Love’s royalties away to the charitable Isaiah 58 Fund, he began work on Forgotten God: Reversing Our Neglect of the Holy Spirit. This message of embracing a life led by the Holy Spirit also resonated with readers, and Forgotten God made many bestseller lists as well.
In 2011, Chan released his third book, Erasing Hell, wherein he tackles the reality of hell, an issue Chan says, “we can’t afford to get wrong.”
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