Advent Reflections: God’s Government in Your Marriage

God's Government in Your Marriage

Today we’re starting a new advent series on the blog leading up to Christmas day. Our aim is to help you focus on Jesus throughout the busy Christmas season. Gary Thomas, author of many marriage books, will kick off our series with an Old Testament Christmas prophecy. 

The Bible is so powerful that one phrase can feed a hungry soul for days. The way God weaves words to nourish our spirits is truly astounding.

I thought of this when I came across a familiar passage used to celebrate Christmas, an Old Testament prophecy that speaks of the future Messiah. “There will be no end to the increase of His government or of peace,” (Isaiah 9:7).

There is so much hope here for marriages and families. Let me explain.

God’s “government” is his rule, his sustaining influence and providential work over our lives and this world. Isaiah reminds us that this rule will never end. God, unlike a politician, doesn’t have to get re-elected. We’ll never see him standing behind a podium giving a concession speech. His words are eternal, forever binding. No one can vote him out of office and undo one of his decrees. We need never fear the veto or rule of another.

It’s not just God’s government that will never end, it’s the increase of his government that will never end. God’s government, his rule, spreads. That’s what it does, by nature, and it can’t be stopped. So, if you’re praying for a lost spouse or lost child, be comforted in knowing that the nature of God’s reign is to increase. It never stops increasing. You can have great hope that there is always room for one more soul to bow down and recognize God as Lord. There is no “quota,” no limit to which God’s authority is confined.

This promise gave me hope to write A Lifelong Love: What If Marriage Is About More Than Just Staying Together?If God’s government (his rule and influence) is on the increase, then my marriage doesn’t have to stay where it is. Allowing him to be the builder and re-builder of my marriage, we can submit ourselves to him and say, “Lord, we tried building a marriage and family our way, without you, or limiting you. It didn’t work. Will you take over? We submit to your rule and your influence.”

I was challenged by Jeremiah 31:4 where God promises Israel, “I will build you and you will be rebuilt.” Could this work for a dead or dying marriage? Or even just a stagnant marriage?

Yes, it can. When God’s influence increases in our lives through worship, through one or both marriage partners growing in their understanding and practice of love, and in submitting ourselves to intentionally follow through on our vows made before God, marriages can be and are being remade, renewed, refreshed and strengthened. In short, it’s about putting our marriages under God’s reign, influence, and government.

In other words, what many marriages need is to get more into God so that the couple can get more into each other.

Christmas marks God breaking into this world in a dramatic fashion. Experiencing the increase of his government is about opening up our marriages to receive more of God—we surrender to the increase of God’s government instead of our own selfishness; we surrender to God’s aim and purpose instead of our own desires; we recognize the daily authority of God’s presence over our words, our thoughts, and actions toward each other.

Marriage is about far more than just staying together—it’s about sharing God together, enjoying God together, growing in God together, and when we do that, the affection we feel for each other, the joy we have in each other, constitutes not just a lifelong marriage, but a lifelong love.

There is great security, peace, joy, and hopeful expectation when we surrender our relationships to God’s government. God didn’t come merely to save—He came to rule. And He wants to rule in and through you, beginning with your marriage.

Drink deeply of God’s reign this Christmas season. Feast on the security that God is in charge, and not just in charge, but in eternal charge. [Click to tweet!] When you return from this meditation to reconsider your family and marriage, you just might live with a lighter spirit. You’re not in this alone. You never have been, and you never need to be.


You can get many of Gary Thomas’ ebooks on Vyrso, including his bestseller Sacred Marriage and the newly-released A Lifelong Love: What if Marriage is about More Than Just Staying Together?

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There’s Still Time to Get Black Friday Deals

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4 Ways to Live a More Thankful Life

4 Ways to Live a Thankful Life

Giving thanks is an important part of how we interact with God. Being thankful to God, in a way, is choosing to be vulnerable, releasing our concepts of control in our lives over to him. While giving thanks often takes place around a meal or in our personal prayers, it’s worth thinking about thanksgiving as more than an act, but a state of the heart and constant outpouring. Throughout the Psalms we see countless instances of giving constant thanks with the entirety of the heart.  Psalm 86:12 is a great example—”I give thanks to you, O Lord my God, with my whole heart, and I will glorify your name forever,”—as is Psalm 9:1. Sometimes being thankful is hard. We have days where we can’t see the good things God has provided for us. We can be envious of what others have and feel like we’re coming up short on things to be thankful for. If we want to live more thankful lives, we need to put a few things into practice.

1. Think of the gospel and evaluate your mindset

Are you too wrapped up in your day-to-day challenges to see the good things God has placed in your life? It might be time to evaluate your mindset.

If you need a place to start, there is no greater thing to be thankful for than the work of Christ on the Cross.

The gospel is larger than your discomforts, hardships, arguments, and short-comings. 1 Peter 2:24 says, “He himself bore our sins in his body on the tree, that we might die to sin and live to righteousness. By his wounds you have been healed.” It’s impossible to imagine a more stunning act of love. This, first and foremost, is what we should be thankful for each day.

2. Open prayers with giving thanks

Beginning a prayer with, “Thank you, Lord . . .” is a humbling way to acknowledge God’s work in our lives and our dependence on him. It’s a simple, yet powerful act of gratitude that’s important in any prayer life.

3. Make a daily list of what you’re thankful for

Creating a list of things you’re thankful for focuses your attention and time on identifying God’s blessings and how he is working in your life. Try keeping a list for one week—you might be surprised at how this practice shapes your outlook on gratitude.

Get specific with your list. When you ask yourself, “What am I thankful for?” do you default to broad categories? “Family?” “Friends?” “God?” These are all great things to be thankful for, but what if you drilled down deeper to more specific events, people, and happenings? You can be thankful for your friends, but more specifically, how a particular friend supported you through a rough day and gave you much-needed words of wisdom in the situation. To take this a step further, let others know you are thankful for their friendship, fellowship, love, etc.

4.  Quit the comparison game

Constantly comparing yourself to others is an unhealthy habit that’s bound to leave you feeling like you’re coming up short in some way. We were all created with different gifts, abilities, and life stories. It’s inevitable that our blessings, and what we are thankful for, will vary. We are able to have a thankful heart when we focus on our relationship with God and what he is doing in our lives—not what others have or appear to have. Don’t let your focus on someone else’s blessings diminish yours or your ability to see the good things God has provided for you.

  Thankfulness is always in season. If you need a resource to help you focus on giving thanks to God, A Collection of Thanksgiving Blessings is just 99 cents on Vyrso through November 30.

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With the Advent season only a couple of days away,  Billy Graham’s newest ebook, The Cradle, Cross, and Crown is the perfect resource to help you focus on the true meaning and message of Christmas. Today only, you can get The Cradle, Cross, and Crown for just 99 cents.

You’ll learn from Billy Graham as he discusses the true Christmas message that is so often lost in the busyness and profit-making venues during the holiday season. How does one wade through all of the worldly diversions and still find Christ? Drawing from a lifetime of writings and sermons, Graham takes readers back to the time when heaven descended to earth—and the place where Christ was born. Included in this classic Christmas message are excerpts from This Christmas Night, Scriptural accounts of Christ’s birth, favorite carols, and beautiful poetry by Ruth Bell Graham. It’s perfect for keeping focused on what’s truly important during the bustle of the season.

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Jesus: More Than a Great Teacher and Leader


Today’s guest post is by J. Warner Wallace a cold-case detective, a Christian case-maker, and the author of Cold-Case Christianity. You can get Cold-Case Christianity in the David C. Cook Bundle, which is filled with titles to help you grow spiritually, personally, and professionally. For a limited time, get 30 ebooks for just $99.97—that’s over $350 in savings! 


What separates Jesus from other great religious figures of history? Many faith traditions lay claim to famous religious leaders and founders, but Jesus is different. Jesus claimed to be more than a good teacher or leader. Jesus claimed to be God. Some deny this truth about Jesus’ teaching, but the New Testament leaves little room for doubt—Jesus claimed to be God and taught this truth to His followers:

He spoke as though he was God
While all Biblical prophets of God made statements on God’s behalf, they were careful to preface their proclamations with “This is what the LORD Almighty says,” or “This is what the LORD says,” but Jesus never used such a preface. Instead, Jesus always prefaced his statements with, “Verily, verily, I say to you,” (KJV) or “I tell you the truth,” (NASB). Prophets spoke for God, but Jesus consistently spoke as God.

He claimed the title used by God
Faithful Jews recognized the fact that God identified himself to Moses as the great “I AM” (Exodus 3:14). Yet Jesus (in referring to himself) told the Jewish religious leaders, “before Abraham was born, I AM.” They immediately recognized he was identifying himself as God and were so angered by this ‘blasphemy’ they “picked up stones to stone him.” (Jesus also identified himself as the great I AM in Mark 14:62, John 18:5-6, 8:24, and 8:28.)

He claimed the home of God
Every time Jesus was asked about where he came from, he told his listeners he came not from Bethlehem or Nazareth but from the same realm where God abides. Jesus claimed to come “from above.” He repeatedly said he was “not of this world” (John 8:23-24) and even told Pilate he was a king whose kingdom “is from another place” (John 18:36-37).

He claimed equality with God
Jesus said God’s angels were his angels and God’s kingdom was his kingdom (Matthew 13:41). Jesus even said the judgment typically understood to be reserved for God was actually Jesus’ judgment to make (Luke 12:8-9). Jesus told his followers when they saw him, they saw God; if they knew him, they knew God, and if they loved him, they were loving God (John 14:6-9 and John 14:23).

He saw no distinction between himself and God
Finally, Jesus simply and plainly told his followers there was no distinction between himself and God the Father. When talking about the manner in which saints are selected for salvation, Jesus said, “I and the Father are one” (John 10:29). He did not mean they were ‘one’ in purpose or power, but they were one in identity. His hearers understood what he was saying and picked up stones again to stone him “for blasphemy, because you, a mere man, claim to be God” (John 10:33).

There are many important religious dates commemorating the significant role historic religious leaders have played, but Jesus was more than an important leader and founder. He was more than a great thinker and teacher—Jesus taught his followers he was God.


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Ministry Would Be Great If it Weren’t for the People


Today’s guest post is by Vyrso’s author of the month, Josh Kelley. Josh has been a pastor for 15 years and is the author of Radically Normal: You Don’t Have to Live Crazy to Follow JesusJosh has graciously offered to give away Radically Normal for free when you sign up to receive Vyrso’s daily deal email alerts! With Vyrso’s daily deals, you can get a new 24-hour deal through November 27. There are only a few days left to get this freebie—enter your email address on the Radically Normal product page to receive your free ebook in an email!

I cringed as I saw Mabel walking by my house. At church she told me she lived in my neighborhood, and now she’d found my house. As she walked up to my door, I put on my best pastor face.

“Hi Mabel, so good to see you!” I lied.

“Hi neighbor, I mean Pastor! God bless you!” she said, the words interrupted by nervous laughter. As she spoke, she bobbed back and forth, like a Hasidic Jew praying at the Wailing Wall.

I allowed her to chatter and bob away, nodding and smiling at appropriate intervals. After giving her enough of my Saturday, I politely drew the one-way conversation to an end.

“Can you pray for my corns first?” asked Mabel. “They’re hurting from the walk.”

She plopped herself down in a chair, took off her shoe, pull off her sock, and propped her foot up on another chair. She believed prayer required direct contact. I gingerly put my hand on the top of the offending foot, but she said, “They’re under here,” and wrapped my fingers around her toes.

A couple of minutes later, as Mabel was walking down my driveway and I was washing my hands a second time, my wife asked me, “What was that about?!?”

“That’s nothing,” I said. “She once had Pastor Bruce pray for her hemorrhoids.”

The Real Problem

Looking back, the part of that story that makes me cringe is not the memory of Mabel’s sweaty foot, but the stench of my own attitude. Back in Bible college, we used to joke, “Ministry would be great . . . if it weren’t for the people.” I saw Mabel as one of those people—I ministered to her because I had to. Given a choice, I would’ve spent my time with the movers and shakers who matched my idea of spiritual greatness.

Because I’m writing this to Logos and Vyrso users, I suspect that many of you are pastors, students, and lay leaders and that you’ve heard that joke before. Even if you aren’t in formal ministry, God probably brings hurting people across your path on a regular basis, people that are a drain on your time and patience. In either case, think about what “if it weren’t for the people” communicates—“They are lucky to have me ministering to them.” Somehow that doesn’t feel very Christ-like, does it?

In truth, you and I are lucky to minister to them. Here’s how I now see it. I’m crazy about my two young daughters. They are the apple of my eye and I’m very protective of them. Were I ever to ever allow you to care for them, it would be very high praise indeed.

I finally realized that Mabel is one of God’s precious daughters. He had given me the high privilege of carrying for her and I treated it as a burden. I say that to my shame. My attitude reeked worse than any sweaty foot. I’m learning that until I see it as a privilege to lay hands on Mabel’s feet, I am not worthy to do so.

This hasn’t been an overnight change for me. I’m learning to come off my high horse and be less impressed with myself and my Biblical knowledge. I’m learning that God cares a lot more about his broken children than I did. He has also allowed me to be deeply hurt by the sort of people that used to impress me.

Becoming less impressed with myself (especially when I had to get a second job at Starbucks) is a key part of my story, which you can find in my book, Radically Normal. It’s free on Vyrso until November 27, so you may want to download it and read chapter 2, “It’s Okay to Be Normal.” In the meantime, I pray that God blesses you with many stinky feet to pray for and the perspective to know that it’s a privilege.

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Keeping a Well-Oiled Life: Living in God’s Presence


Today’s guest post is by “Mountain Man,” Tim Guraedy. He needs no introduction for the hardcore fans of  the television show, “Duck Dynasty.” For those who don’t follow the show, Tim Guraedy is an air-conditioning repairman and radio host who is a neighbor to the Robertsons, a family that owns the famous duck call company, Duck Commander. You can get his ebook Mountain Man: Keepin’ a Slow Profile on Vyrso today.

In my book Mountain Man: Keepin’ a Slow Profile, I share the story when I shot an eight-point buck with a friend after climbing up into a tree with a broken arm. He scared the buck into an opening, and I shot the deer with my 12-gage single shot Ithaca shotgun.

Deer often try to get up and run away, so I went to reload my shotgun. But the barrel had gotten rusty and I couldn’t get the shell out. I grabbed my knife and tried to pry the shell out of the barrel, but just broke the tip off the end my knife.

So I snapped a limb off the tree and used it as a ramrod to push the shell out the other end. If I had oiled my gun, I would have easily been able to slide in another shell quickly. Thankfully my shot was on the money, or I would have lost my deer. I eventually got the shell out.

A good hunter knows you need to keep your guns oiled or they’re not going to perform properly. I think the Christian life is like that too. If you don’t take care of yourself and remain “well oiled,” you won’t function the way God designed you to and you’ll find yourself getting stuck far too often.

Going to church, reading the Word, hanging out with godly people, and being in the presence of the Holy Spirit is like oiling your gun. These things add to your faith and keep you in a better place.

It’s easy to get caught up in your business, running from one place to another and forgetting about what’s important. You set your Bible aside, you’re too tired to go to church, or find excuses that keep you from doing the right thing. Before you know it, you’re not yourself and things start going wrong.

You have to recognize what’s happening. Ask yourself, “Why am I getting stressed? Why is my job not going right?” Slow down and take a minute to think, “What’s going on? Have I been reading my Bible? Have I had one-on-one interaction with another godly person lately?”

It’s easy to get caught living by the flesh instead of the Holy Spirit. When things start going wrong, it can be a reminder to get oiled up with God’s word and his presence, or things are going to get jammed up.

When I’m out talking to people, I tell them not to let stuff pile up on top of their Bibles. I always make sure no dust is collecting on top of my Bible. The Word of God has been important to me in my life.

Try to find a little time in your day to interact with someone who will encourage you, and you can encourage them too. I find that meeting with two and three people during the week helps me stay oiled. If you’re at work, find a quiet place or go sit in your car and have a little time with the Lord. Don’t think that you have enough of the Holy Spirit and you’re good to go. It’s impossible to stay well-oiled with the Lord if the only time you want to interact with Him is once a week during church.

Part of keeping your heart well-oiled is interacting with the Lord each day. If you’re not doing that, you’re likely to be stressed. When you’re stressed, you tend to take longer on your work because you’re not thinking clearly and you’re trying to take on the task by yourself. When you interact with the Holy Spirit, he takes the stress off and you can get the job done right the first time.

I can’t live this life alone and neither can you. Just admit it. Life is full of things we can worry about, but Jesus told his followers, “Don’t worry about your life” (Matthew 6:25). He told us that our heavenly father takes care of the birds and the flowers, so he’ll take care of you. Seek first the kingdom of God today and you’ll stay well-oiled for all that God has for you each day.

Emm Hmmm!

To learn more about my new book, check out it on Vyrso today. Find out what’s going on with Mountain Man through my Facebook page, which also has information about my weekly radio show.


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