Today’s guest post is written by Jessica Thompson, author of Everyday Grace: Infusing All Your Relationships with the Love of Jesus, and co-author of Give Them Grace. She has been married for 18 years and has three kids, ranging from nine to fourteen years old.
“If you want love, give love. If you want friends, be friendly. If you’d like to feel understood, try being more understanding. It’s a simple practice that works.”
Seemingly good advice for the one looking for relationship. I would venture to say everyone would agree with that statement. I know I have said something very similar to my children as they have bemoaned the fact that they don’t have many friends. I have preached that to my own heart. And yet, there is a man who wrecks that entire paradigm.
This man lived unselfishly every single day of his life. He always chose to love others, perfectly. He also chose to serve others, completely. He never thought about what was best for him. He lived to please his Father. He considered himself a servant to all. There was no task too dirty or too menial for him. He was known to wash the feet of those who were about to betray and deny him. He gave to those he knew would show no gratitude. He loved without ever thinking of what would be given in return. He truly understood all that others went through without ever being understood. He gave love unceasingly and was met with hate and mistrust. I am sure you have guessed at this point that I am talking about our Redeemer, our sweet Savior, our Christ.
We are all sinners and bound to hurt and to be hurt, and, because of this, we desire to protect ourselves. I don’t want to be hurt and I hate hurting others. It makes me think the easiest thing is just to hide myself away, lock my heart up, never get close enough to anybody to hurt them or to let them hurt me.
But then I look at what lengths God has gone to be in relationship with me. I look at Christ living every single day of his life in relationship without ever sinning and yet constantly being sinned against, and my heart is broken. My self-protective tendencies are shattered. For in Christ, I have all the relationship I need and all the relationship I have ever longed for. [Click to tweet!]
Even as I type this on a dreary Monday morning, I can look back at the three hours I have been awake and I can see that I have sinned against everyone with whom I have come in contact. They may not have known what was in my heart, but if they did they would have been devastated. If I stay with that thought I can become increasingly inward focused and fall back into self-preservation. But then the Holy Spirit lifts my eyes, and I see my Perfect Righteousness sitting at the right hand of the Father. I see the Father lovingly looking at his Son, and I know that look is for me as well because I am in Christ by faith. All the love and acceptance that Jesus earned is now mine. I am a relationship screw-up, and yet he has forgiven me.
Beloved, because of this forgiveness, because of this Messiah who knows the hurt of relationship, because of this God who would suffer when the relationship with his Son was broken, because of the Holy Spirit who reminds us of our Father’s steadfast love for us, we can continue in relationship.
We can love out of the overflow of love that has been bestowed on us. We can forgive out of the forgiveness that has washed our lives completely. We can give when it feels like there is nothing left to give. When there is no desire to give, we can remember that we have already been given all that we need.
Perhaps the quote at the beginning should read, “If you want love, remember you have it. If you want friends, remember your position in Christ. If you would like to feel understood, see Christ your High Priest sympathizing with you in every weakness. It’s a difficult practice, but you have help.”
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Today’s guest post is written by Jessica Thompson, author of Everyday Grace: Infusing All Your Relationships with the Love of Jesus, and co-author of Give Them Grace. She has been married for 18 years and has three kids, ranging from nine to fourteen years old. “If you want love, give love. If you want friends, be […]