Three Challenges for Single Christians: an Interview with Lisa Anderson

The Dating Manifesto

We had the privilege to interview author Lisa Anderson, host of the national radio program and podcast The Boundless Show, about her new ebook, The Dating Manifesto: A Drama-Free Plan for Pursuing Marriage with Purpose. 

Get The Dating Manifesto today—it’s on sale for $2.99 through October 13!

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Lisa, you are involved with Boundless and you work as director of Young Adults for Focus on the Family. Tell us a little bit about your passions and ultimately how you ventured on your path to success?

My background is in journalism and media relations; for 11 years I was director of our public relations efforts at Focus on the Family. But in the midst of that, I got to know the team, and before long, they were asking me to host a new podcast they were starting because —true story—”you’re single and like to talk.” 

My involvement with Boundless revolutionized my view on marriage, dating, and thriving as a single adult.

As you’ve matured in your faith, which specific authors and books have been life-changing as you have grown in your faith? 

As a young girl, missionary biographies had a huge impact on me. They taught me that God is real and active in all corners of the world. [Click to Tweet!]

I’ve become a little more Reformed in my theology (maybe a lot more) thanks to books like:

A Praying Life by Paul Miller made me want to pray, and showed me how.

Unoffendable showed me how to get relationally healthy and love others well.

I am a huge fan of Beth Moore‘s Bible studies. I love that they have homework which keeps me in God’s Word throughout the week, and her passion for Jesus reminds me to never be ashamed of the Gospel and never be afraid to get excited about my faith.

Tell us a little bit about your new release, The Dating Manifesto, and what inspired you to write it.

I wasn’t sure I would write it at first, because I wasn’t convinced I had anything new to say on the subject.

But then I realized that most of the dating/singleness books out there are written by married people looking back on that season of their lives. I wanted to write as someone still in the trenches—still struggling, still waiting, but still trusting God through it all.

I was tired of all the feel-good, “Jesus is all you need” platitudes that we singles were being given; I wanted the truth told straight with a heavy dose of encouragement. [Click to Tweet!]

What are three main challenges that you give to singles looking for that special someone?

   1. Date with a purpose in mind. Too many singles are going on pizza dates for months and years on end without expecting anything from a relationship.

   2. Make sure you’re in a position to date and marry well. This means dealing with baggage from your upbringing or past relationships. It means getting counseling if you need it. It means getting a job, dealing with crippling debt, taking ownership of your own faults and insecurities, and breaking bad relationship patterns.

   3. Approach dating realistically. You are not looking for perfection or the answer to your 50-point list of “must-haves.” You’re looking for a flawed person who is humble, teachable, growing and loves Jesus with his or her whole heart; everything else is negotiable.


Read Lisa Anderson’s The Dating Manifesto: A Drama-Free Plan for Pursuing Marriage with Purpose on Vyrso today!

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John Wycliffe: A Man Dedicated to Preaching


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The Barbour Bundle is loaded with a variety of content—ebooks that focus on prayer, relationships, why bad things happen to good people, and more. You’ll grow your library with 40 new ebooks, including Foxe’s Christian Martyrs.

This ebook discusses the history of those who gave the ultimate sacrifice to build the church.

Foxe exposes the lives of Christians who suffered under persecution during the early church era all the way through the reign of Queen Elizabeth in England. You’ll find inspiration and encouragement in your walk from these stories of courage, love, and sacrifice, including the story of John Wycliffe.

Wycliffe lived during the late 1300’s, and while he was a very educated man, not many other people were at this time. Many people did not understand the doctrine of salvation through faith, and not by works. The church, at this time, was focused on ceremony and traditions, convincing people that if they did the right things and paid enough, they would be saved.

After studying the Biblical texts Wycliffe saw things differently, and as the reader of Divinity at Oxford, he took advantage of his position. Here he started to explicitly preach to those who would listen, doing this in the hopes of ending idolatry in the church.

The five main points John Wycliffe taught were:

   1. In regards to the sacrament of communion: the holy eucharist, after consecration, is not the actual body of Christ.

   2. The church of Rome is no more important than any other church, and Peter had no more power given to him by Christ than any other apostle.

   3. The Pope has no more power than any other priest.

   4. The gospel is enough for any man, without the rules of men, which add nothing to the gospel.

   5. Neither the Pope nor any other church official has the power or right to punish transgressors.

Unfortunately many leaders in the church had grown wealthy because of their rituals and they were angry at Wycliffe for teaching this. They began to retaliate by working to take away his salary at Oxford, however this didn’t stop Wycliffe—he continued to preach.

Eventually Wycliffe was tried for heresy twice and escaped punishment on both occasions. Over time Wycliffe was forced into hiding. He stayed hidden until right before his death in 1384, when he returned to his parish. Years after his death, in 1415, the church determined that Wycliffe was a heretic, and so they went and took his bones from their burial spot, burned them, and threw the ashes in a river.

To learn more about important people who were dedicated to preaching the Gospel despite persecution, you’ll want to read Foxe’s Christian Martyrs, available in the Barbour Bundle through October 15

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3 Ways We Find Freedom in Christ: An Interview with Nancy Alcorn

Ditch the Baggage

We had the privilege to interview author Nancy Alcorn about her new release, Ditch the Baggage, Change Your Life. 

This exclusive interview is part of Vyrso’s author recommendation blog series, where you can read exclusive interviews with Christian authors and get great recommendations on ebooks that have impacted their walk with Christ.

Nancy, tell us about Mercy Multiplied and how your experiences and your faith played a major role in establishing this program.

It was during and after college that I spent eight years working for the state of Tennessee at a correctional facility for juvenile delinquent girls and investigating child abuse cases. Working for the state on a daily basis gave me direct encounters with secular programs that were not producing permanent results that exemplified changed lives. I saw many of the girls pass the age of 18 and end up in the women’s prison system because they never got the real help they needed.

I began to realize that only Jesus could bring restoration into the lives of girls who were desperately hurting and searching for something to fill the void they felt in their hearts. I knew God was unfolding a plan prompting me to step out in faith to help hurting young women.

I was determined to establish a program in which lives would truly be transformed, so in January 1983, I moved to Monroe, Louisiana to start Mercy Ministries of America (now Mercy Multiplied).

Mercy Multiplied is dedicated to helping young women break free from life-controlling behaviors and situations, including eating disorders, self-harm, drug and alcohol addictions, unplanned pregnancy, depression, sexual abuse, and sex trafficking.

We hope to help every woman we serve experience God’s unconditional love, forgiveness, and life-transforming power.

What sparked you to write your newest release, Ditch the Baggage, Change Your Life?

It doesn’t matter how put together or “un-put” together somebody looks. We all have pain. We all have fear. We all have problems. But we don’t all have freedom in Christ!!

Again and again I’ve asked myself, what can we do? What can Mercy do to help all these thousands upon thousands of hurting people who can’t come to our homes? Now, this year, I believe God has provided Mercy with an answer. That answer is to expand our outreach efforts in deeper and broader ways to help others, of all ages, near and far, realize lasting freedom.

A big part of these outreach efforts is my new book Ditch the Baggage, and it has one simple message that some people have been waiting a lifetime to hear: you were born to live free. [Click to Tweet!]

Ditch the Baggage, Change Your Life focuses on finding a lasting freedom through Christ. What are three key ways to find this freedom?

The book focuses on the primary seven keys to freedom that we use in our homes, and three of the keys discussed are:

Total Commitment—This includes being committed to Christ and being committed to freedom. In order to live and walk in freedom, you must have a relationship and a commitment to the actual freedom Giver!

Healing Life Hurts—Every one of us experiences hurt. When those hurts remain unhealed, they cause us to shrink back from life, to operate out of fear, and to build our lives around avoiding more hurts. Any person who has a deep hurt will find their decision making affected. Total freedom means no longer allowing hurts to direct our lives, tarnish our relationships, and shape our personalities.

Renewing the Mind—The Word of God says that when we renew our minds, our lives will be changed! Renewing your mind means to do away with ungodly thought patterns and to replace them with godly ones. Behind every bad habit or bondage is a lie. When we commit our minds completely to Christ, lies can be erased and He can do a powerful work of grace in us.

Through the years as you’ve grown in your faith, which authors have been influential to you, your ministry, and your writing? 

Obviously in their own individual areas of expertise there have been a number of authors who have affected my life in different ways for different reasons.

Joyce Meyer inspired me to be honest, open, and transparent in my writing. Joyce has always used those things she has dealt with in her life as a way to help other people. I have specifically been influenced by her teachings about how God wants us to be whole spirit, soul and body (1 Thessalonians 5:23).

John Maxwell has significantly influenced my leadership with his awesome teachings and books. He has inspired me specifically through this teachings on adding value to every person with whom you come in contact.

Dr. Myles Munroe’s teachings on realizing the potential of every person has inspired me to believe in every young woman who walks through the doors of Mercy. He has helped me to remember that these young women may be in our program because of life-controlling issues, but the truth is that there is potential in every one of them to become a world changer!

Dave Ramsey is not only a close personal friend of mine, but has had amazing influence in my life and the life of every young woman that walks through the doors of Mercy through his books on giving, financial peace and stewardship.


Learn more about finding freedom in Christ in Nancy Alcorn’s Ditch the Baggage, Change Your Life on Vyrso today!

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Navigating Negative Change: An Interview with Kristen Strong

Girl Meets Change

Today we are featuring an exclusive interview with author Kristen Strong about her new release, Girl Meets Change. This interview is part of Vyrso’s author recommendation series, where you can read exclusive interviews with Christian authors and get great recommendations on ebooks that have impacted their walk with Christ.

Tell us a little bit about your blog, Chasing Blue Skies, and what inspired you to create this refreshing site.

I’ve loved journaling and writing stories since I was very young. Blogging became an easy, natural forum for me to practice the art and discipline of regular writing.

As a nature lover who can’t get enough sky gazing, I liked the idea of creating an online space that reflected this. Hence Chasing Blue Skies was born, and it truly is a natural fit for my style, personality, and interests.


Through the years as you’ve grown in your faith, what are some specific authors and books have been influential on you and your writing?

In what ways have you been influenced by these authors and books?

I am drawn to authors who help me see myself—my place, purpose and value in this world—as Jesus does. Within the pages of each book mentioned above, I am able to see myself in a more accurate light as I find myself in their stories.

Each author referenced is a master at showing how the Bible is alive and relevant to my life. Each lives (or lived) authentically in the freedom Jesus offers as well as makes a relationship with Him look so attractive, it’s something I naturally want too.

Tell us about your new release Girl Meets Change.

Girl Meets Change is a book written to help women see their difficult life change in a new hopeful light. It is a place that meets women at the crossroads of their anxiety about change and God’s purpose found in it. Inside its pages are not only my story of change, but also the stories of other women and stories from Scripture.

What are few healthy ways to navigate negative change?

  1. Make an intentional choice to regularly enter into the presence of Christ.

We all know spending time with Jesus benefits us, but we don’t always realize how much Jesus truly enjoys our presence too. [Click to Tweet!]

He delights in us. Once we start to get a taste of that, we want to spend more time with him. And the more we spend time with him, the more we know the hardship brought on by change is still very much within the care and concern of Christ. Therefore, we are better able to live by faith that God intends to use the difficult change in our lives to bless us.

We better see the change in our lives not as the end of our story but a part of it. Our change is never the end. God’s grace and goodness are. [Click to Tweet!]

  2. Make your questions surrounding the change work for you.

I’m a big question asker, so when change lands in my lap, questions want to tag-a-long with it. I haven’t always directed those questions in a “for me” way.

For example, when my husband and I couldn’t easily start a family, my questions sounded like Why can’t I get pregnant? Doesn’t God think I would be a good mom?Instead of asking questions that focused on the outcomes of my circumstances, I needed to reframe them to focus on the purpose of my circumstances.

So better questions for me to ask here What else does God want to give me? What else is he working out in me through this situation? Then I could dwell on healthy, truth-based answers rather than answers based on my topsy-turvy feelings.


Want to learn more about working through life’s transitions? Get Girl Meets Change on Vyrso today!

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How Christians Can Combat Lies: An Interview with Tim Chaddick

The Truth About Lies

Today we are featuring an exclusive interview with author and pastor Tim Chaddick about his new release, The Truth About Lies. 

This interview is part of Vyrso’s author recommendation series, where you can read exclusive interviews with Christian authors and get great recommendations on ebooks that have impacted their walk with Christ.

Tim, tell us a little bit about your background and how it impacts your preaching and your writing?

Born and raised in the San Francisco Bay Area I spent my early teens embracing the “unholy trinity” of sex, drugs, and rock ‘n’ roll. I became sexually active in the ninth grade and consented to my first abortion by the tenth. I experimented with a host of drugs before getting hooked on several.

But the center of my life was undoubtedly music. Playing in several bands, I saw music as my savior – the one thing that brought value to my existence. It wasn’t until I heard the gospel at a Christian event 1999 that I saw both the depth of my sin and the beauty of Christ. I trusted in Him that day and my life has never been the same since.

Whenever I am preaching or writing I find myself asking this question: Could I reach my former self?

After finding Christ, which specific authors and books have you read that deepened your faith? 

I know this is pretty cliché, but when I first read C.S. Lewis I felt as if I was hearing explanations of Christianity custom-made for my own personal questions.

I began with the essays such as The Problem of Pain and slowly worked through everything else I could get my hands on. I realized very quickly as a new Christian that I was drawn to writers who, like Lewis, had the ability to weave logic and beauty together in service of the Christian faith.

Another great influence for me would have to be John Stott

His blend of theological precision and personal application has very much shaped my teaching. His book Between Two Worlds is still one of my favorite books on preaching to this day. My sermon preparation owes much to Stott’s emphasis on listening to Scripture as our ultimate authority while also listening to and attempting to answer the questions of our culture in a Biblical way.

What drove you to write your new ebook, The Truth about Lies?

I began to notice a two-fold reaction to the topic of temptation within my own life and within the church—Denial and Despair.

For example, whenever I read in the news a story of moral failure, part of me wants to say with a surge of confidence, “I would never, ever, do such a thing. I’ve got this!” On the other hand, part of me trembles. I am reminded of how fragile humanity is. And I begin to think of my mistakes in the past, and I slowly spiral downward, concluding that because I am vulnerable, defeat is inevitable.

The truth is that neither response can help us face the reality of temptation.

Yet through dependence on Christ within a world of temptation we can not only avoid sin but also learn to flourish in our faith as we learn to choose truth in the face of lies.

What are common lies that Christians often believe and how can we combat them?

The easiest lie to believe is the lie that says we don’t need help. Though it can appear to look like freedom, it actually keeps us from it. This mind-set lies beneath the surface of so many other lies: you need to earn your own salvation or you don’t need saving at all.

The truth is that we are dependent creatures. [Click to Tweet!] We need food, water, shelter, and relationships. We need God. 

The great lie believed by many is that we are independent of God, [Click to Tweet!] looking to enjoy the gift of life without acknowledging a Giver. Daily we are told that the missing ingredient for unleashing unlimited liberation is found from within. It may sound like freedom, but in fact, it’s a sham.

Jesus unmasks this lie and teaches us what true freedom is. It’s found in dependence upon the God who gives life.


Through October 6, save 46% and learn more about overcoming temptation when you get his new release The Truth about Lies for just $6.99!

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Three Reasons October Is Going to Be Awesome!

October is here, and so are three exciting, new things on Vyrso:

1. You’ll get huge savings with Vyrso’s newest bundle, the Barbour Bundle.

2. You’ll find exclusive content through our new author recommendations blog series.

3. You’ll learn more about happiness from Vyrso’s Author of the Month, Randy Alcorn.

Available through October 15, get Vyrso’s newest ebook bundle deal—the Barbour Bundle. You’ll get 40 ebooks and devotionals bundled together for just $64.00—that’s over $200.00 off!


This 40-ebook bundle covers a variety of topics that will deepen your study and deliver practical advice on relationships, prayer, grace, and more.

The Barbour Bundle is packed full of ebooks by notable authors, including:

Charles Spurgeon—he is one of the church’s most famous preachers and Christianity’s most prolific writers. You’ll add Spurgeon’s ebook All of Grace to your library, in it you’ll get a clear, simple explanation of God’s absolutely free gift of salvation!

John Foxe—he was an English historian and martyrologist, the author of various historical accounts of famous Christian martyrs. In his ebook, Foxe’s Christian Martyrs, you’ll be inspired by the ultimate sacrifice of dozens of early followers of Jesus as recorded in the classic history.

Bruce Bickel and Stan JantzThis dynamic duo have co-written many best-sellers including their God Is in The Small Stuff series of ebooks, you’ll grow your library with 7 ebooks by Bruce and Stan included in the Barbour Bundle.

If you were to buy each ebook separately at full price, this bundle would cost $310.58. Now you’ll save $246.58 with Vyrso’s exclusive discount when you add the Barbour Bundle to your library for just $64.00. 

Add the Barbour Bundle to your library today!

All month long, read exclusive interviews with Christian authors and get great recommendations on Christian ebooks.


You’ll hear from authors including Barnabas Piper, Nancy Alcorn, Dr. Russell Moore, Tim Chaddick, and more.

Each post will offer interesting insights into author’s backgrounds, their newest ebook, and recommendations of authors and ebooks that have helped them grow in their faith. You’ll discover who has influenced and shaped them as authors.

These are posts you won’t want to miss—subscribe to Vyrso’s RSS feed, follow Vyrso on Twitter, and like Vyrso on Facebook to ensure you don’t miss the great content featured here!

Vyrso’s Author of the Month is author and theologian Randy Alcorn, and we’re featuring his newest release, Happiness.

Randy bio pic

Randy is a New York Times bestselling author and the founder and director of Eternal Perspective Ministries (EPM), a nonprofit ministry dedicated to teaching principles of God’s Word and assisting the church in ministering to the unreached, unfed, unborn, uneducated, unreconciled, and unsupported people around the world.

His new ebook, Happiness, discusses why the vast majority of Christians are perceived as angry, judgmental people who don’t seem to derive any joy from life, when Christians should be seen as happy, radiating joy, peace, and contentment. Randy believes that Christians have a false understanding on what God wants, they believe God wants us to be holy, and not happy, when that is the furthest thing from the truth! Learn more when you add Happiness to your library.

Randy will be guest blogging right here on the Vyrso blog and we’ll be featuring some exclusive content all about Happiness.

Stay tuned and look for blog, email, and social media updates for new deals and exciting things happening this month!


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Save over $200 with the Barbour Bundle


Announcing Vyrso’s newest ebook bundle deal—the Barbour Bundleavailable through October 15.

Grow your library with 40 ebooks and devotionals for just $64.00—you’ll save $246.58!

This 40-ebook bundle covers a variety of topics that will deepen your Bible study and deliver practical advice on relationships, prayer, grace, and more. 

The Barbour Bundle features ebooks that will encourage and inspire personal growth. The resources in the Barbour Bundle will help you:

1. Get advice that will revolutionize your marriage with David Clarke’s Top 10 Outrageous Couples of the Bible.

This ebook is loaded with biblical examples of outrageous couples that dealt with their struggles, their selfishness, commitment, communication, passion, parenting mistakes, and so much more.

2. Learn from key historical figures in 101 Quotable Christians: More Than 2,000 Memorable Thoughts from People Who Shaped Your Faith.

Barbour pulled out thought-provoking quotes and a brief bio from well-known Christian leaders. You’ll find quotes from Philip Yancey, Charles Spurgeon, Kay Arthur, DL Moody, and more.

3. Grow your personal relationship with Christ.

Remember the first time you experienced Jesus’ love, and how incredible it was? Bill Myers will take you on a journey where you rediscover God’s great love in his ebook, The Jesus Experience: Journey Deeper into the Heart of God!


Get these three ebooks plus 37 more in the Barbour Bundle—where you’ll find ebooks dedicated to helping you grow in your relationship with Christ, as well as encouraging you in you personal relationships.

You’ll save 79% off the full price when you add the Barbour Bundle to your library for just $64.00.


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How to Add 100+ New Ebooks to Your Library

Logos Cloud

Study the Bible with hundreds of new ebooks when you start your free month of Logos Cloud.

Logos Cloud brings you powerful, affordable, subscription-based Bible study. Vyrso and Logos Cloud share the same Faithlife account, this means that when you start your free month with Logos Cloud your library will grow by over 100 ebooks

Plus, with a subscription to Logos Cloud, you can share powerful quotes in a meaningful way with the Visual Copy tool, answer your children’s tough questions with smart search tools, apply key biblical principles to your life with original-language study tools, and so much more. Get started for free today!

Enjoy easy online access to your personal library

With a Logos Cloud subscription, you get access to the Logos web app, so you can use Logos Cloud anywhere there’s an internet connection.

Easily find what every commentary and ebook in your Vyrso and Logos Cloud libraries say about a given topic.

Access all of your notes and highlights in your Vyrso ebooks in Logos Cloud, and vice versa.

Create a unique Bible study experience—Logos Cloud offers four subscription levels: Essentials, Plus, Premium, and Professional.

Logos Cloud Essentials is a great place to get started. It will enrich your daily devotions and give you a new sense of confidence the next time you lead your Bible study. 

Looking for a powerful tool to deepen your understanding of Biblical texts? Logos Cloud Plus includes everything in Essentials, plus additional features, media and a larger library that lets you discover meanings of Greek and Hebrew words, and so much more.

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Ask Josh Kelley Questions as You Read His Ebook


Have you ever been reading a book and wanted to ask the author a question, or wanted to respond to something they said?

You can talk to your friends and everyone guess at how the author might respond, but the only way to know for sure is to ask him or her directly. . . .

Emailing, tweeting at, or writing a letter to the author can be intimidating.

Get answers as you read

Discuss important ideas, start meaningful conversations, and get answers as you read the ebook, Radically Normalwith author Josh Kelleyjust join his Faithlife Group!

Radically Normal is all about how we can live as fully committed followers of Christ right where we are—we don’t have to go somewhere to be radically obedient. Josh recognizes the vague sense of guilt that surrounds people in the church who aren’t missionaries or pastors, and he shows you why you don’t have to give away everything you own to be a fully committed follower of Jesus Christ. Why? Because God is crazy about you right where you are!

Josh is genuinely interested in discussing important points in Radically Normal.

More than anything—he wants to connect with you as you read, be available for answering questions, and participate in discussions! 

 When you add Radically Normal to your library, you’ll be able to ask Josh questions directly within your ebook using Community Notes, or you can start a discussion with Josh and other readers.

Josh has included two suggested reading plans to help you get started (note: you can’t join the reading plan until you own the ebook), as well as a small group planning guide and small group discussion questions—you can find it all in the documents tab.


Join the Radically Normal Faithlife Group today to get answers, discuss ideas, and create conversations with Josh Kelley while you read his ebook, Radically Normal.


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What to Look for in a Future Spouse: An Interview with Kyle and Kelsey Kupecky

Kyle and Kelsey

Husband and wife duo Kyle and Kelsey Kupecky recently teamed up to write The Chase: Trusting God with Your Happily Ever After, their new ebook all about relationships, dating, and pursuing God in relationships. Kelsey, daughter to Karen Kingsbury, is is a designer of “Possibilities,” a DaySpring greeting card and gift line, and an actress in several films. Kyle is a Christian recording artist—he has toured with Lecrae, MercyMe, and Steven Curtis Chapman. 

Vyrso had the chance to get the inside scoop on Kyle and Kelsey’s love story, tips for Christian couples as they begin dating, traits to look for in a future spouse, and so much more.

Tell us a little bit about your story—how did you two meet?

Kyle: The first time I ever met Kelsey was backstage at a concert in Portland, Oregon. When I met Kelsey, I could tell right away that she was different than most girls at concerts. She was confident, kind, and fun. She was just being herself and that really drew me in. That caught my eye. I began to pursue Kelsey. I would drive hours to see her only for a little while before she had to catch a plane. And Kelsey would fly to my nearest shows. Endless hours of Skype dates soon followed and we began dating. We are both romantics, so handwritten notes, love songs, and lots of laughter colored our relationship. We quickly fell in love.

In The Chase, you make the point that it’s important for young men and women to chase after God instead of chasing after fairy tales and dating relationships. How would you say young Christians will know when you are ready to start dating?

Kelsey: When your identity is completely wrapped up in God. When you are completely defined by his love. [Click to Tweet!] You aren’t ready for a romantic relationship until you chase God first. That way, you’ll be defined by God’s love. Not by a guy or a girl or a relationship. Your beauty and self-worth will be wrapped up in God, bringing you peace and confidence. The secret to being ready for a relationship is keeping your heart connected to God.

What are ways young singles can start making themselves ready for marriage?

Kyle:  Think of being single as a time when God is preparing you for your future. Every minute, every hour, every month, every year of singleness is a crucial part of your preparation and journey to meet your potential future love.

What traits should young men and women be looking for in their future spouse?

Kelsey: Character, confidence, and a passion for Jesus. The perfect combination is when you find someone who gets your heart racing but also has a deep and genuine faith. What a beautiful combination. And don’t for a second think that dreaming about your future spouse is wrong or that your standards are too high! God knows and his timing is perfect.

What are five of your go-to tips you would give to Christian boys and girls as they begin to start dating?

Kyle: For Christian guys:

1. Pray about the relationship.

2. Lead her spiritually—talk about God with her. Share with her what God’s doing in your life. Read the Bible together.

3. Respect her by practicing purity and talking about it throughout the relationship.

4. Show her how much she means to you. She’s a prized jewel God created with his own hands. Show that with your actions.

5. Give of yourself sacrificially. Choose her over your own interests. If you find yourself really struggling here. . . maybe she’s not the one.

Kelsey: For Christian girls:

1.  Pray about the relationship.

2. Protect your heart. You deserve nothing but the very best when it comes to guys. So don’t fall in love too fast.

3. Build up the guy with your words. Affirmation is the key to a guy’s heart.

4. Respect the guy by letting him lead. If you let a guy lead the relationship instead of maneuvering it yourself to where you want it to go, you’ll be able to see more clearly how serious he is about the relationship and if he’s leading you in a godly way

5. Practice purity and to talk about it throughout the relationship. Make sure you’re both on the same page.

What are ways that young Christians can guard their heart as they are dating?

Kelsey: Pray for wisdom. Pray for protection for your heart. And praying doesn’t have to be fancy or perfectly planned out. Praying is just telling God what’s on your heart. If you talk to him about the relationship, he’ll show you what to do. And if you don’t get an answer from God right away, wait.

What are some pieces of advice you would give to anyone who has dated before they were ready and made mistakes they now regret? How does grace play into their picture?

Kyle: We are going to mess up, but it’s what we learn from those mistakes that really counts. God offers grace and forgiveness beyond measure. We don’t deserve it, but he grants it freely. [Click to Tweet!] All it takes is for us to acknowledge that we messed up, that we are broken, and that we desperately need his help and forgiveness.

You can choose today to start again. You can still find your happily ever after with God’s guidance. We all have to live with the consequences of our actions, but God is right there helping us.


Read more insights from Kyle and Kelsey’s story and the stories of others about putting God first in their relationships, protecting purity, dealing with loneliness, and so much more in The Chase!

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